For the man who wants to be a provider
Being the provider she needs is easier than you've been told.
How To Be The Provider She Wants in 21 Days. One-on-one with Cole, for young men who are ready to lead at home and improve the quality of their relationships.
Free. The four parts of providing, in your inbox in two minutes.
Do any of these sound familiar?
She told you she needs you to be a provider. You nodded. And somewhere in the back of your head a quieter question started up: can a guy like me actually do this?
You have a good job. You pay the bills. You're not failing at anything. But when she names something she needs, it lands like a grade on you, and you either defend yourself or go quiet. Neither one feels like the man you want to be.
The picture you've been handed of a provider is a man who gave up everything he enjoyed and works until he disappears. Or you don't have a picture of it at all, because no one ever modeled it for you.
If there's a baby on the way, or a ring in your drawer.
You don't have a year to sort this out. You have weeks. Twenty-one days is enough time to make life-changing progress and walk into what's coming as the man you want her to have.
Providing is made of four parts.
Most men picture providing as one enormous weight. Money, protection, leadership, all of it, all at once, for the rest of your life. Nobody can lift that.
Take it apart and it's four pieces. Each one is small enough to work on this week. And you're already strong in at least one of them. Most men are.
Direction
Knowing where your family is headed, and saying it out loud.
Temperance
Staying level when she names a need, so what she says lands as information you can act on.
Margin
Room in your money and your week, so one surprise doesn't knock everything over.
Presence
Being there in the room, still doing the things that make you you.
Three weeks. One part at a time.
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Days 1–7
Change the narrative
The story you've been living under gets examined, and the man you're becoming finally comes into focus.
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Days 8–14
Build the man
That picture becomes something you can actually run: the behaviors, the standards, the day.
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Days 15–21
Be the man
It stops being a plan and starts being proof, and you see what it's all for.
Who this is for, and who it isn't.
This is for you if
- You want to be the provider, but you don't know how that works.
- You think being a provider is too hard in this day and age.
- You've never seen anyone actually provide.
- Someone you love has asked you to step up.
- A baby, a newborn or an engagement is close.
- You want real movement in weeks, and a year of sessions isn't what you're after.
- You'll give it 15 to 20 minutes a day.
This isn't for you if
- You want someone to tell you you're already fine.
- You're looking for therapy to work through the past.
- You'd rather join a group than do the work one-on-one.
- $497 doesn't feel worth a lifelong investment right now.
- You won't open the book.
I'm Cole.
My whole life changed when she came into the picture. Everything I learned growing up was put to the test, and I felt badly underprepared to be the provider she was asking for. So at 22, not wanting to lose her, I set out to teach myself and put it into practice.
It took nearly two years to learn that providing comes down to a handful of things you can learn, and that you don't have to lose yourself to do them. Now I'm 24, the provider for our soon-to-be family, and I walk men through it one at a time, in three weeks.
Read my story →Everything you need to become the provider she wants, for one price.
$497
About what a month of weekly therapy costs, and built to be finished in three weeks.
No pressure. We'll see if it fits your life before you pay anything.
- DAILY21 short daily lessons.
One a day, 15 minutes or less.
- BOOKThe Provider's Playbook.
A physical book shipped to your door. The exercises live here, so you work on paper rather than on a screen.
- CALLSFour one-on-one calls with Cole.
About four hours in total: one before you start, then one at the end of each week.
- GUIDEGuide to Hard Conversations.
- AFTER30, 60 and 90-day check-ins after the program.
The job isn't finished after 21 days. What we build, you have to sustain. I won't just disappear when my check clears. My success hinges on yours, so I hope you don't get sick of me.
- STARTDay 1 starts on your intake call.
No days burn while the book is in the mail.
The do-the-work guarantee.
I want you to succeed. Do every lesson and every Playbook page for 21 days. If you don't feel more ready to be the provider she needs, I'll refund all $497.
Questions men ask first.
How much time does this take each day?
About 15 to 20 minutes: a short lesson and a page in the Playbook. The calls are scheduled around your week.
What happens on the call?
We talk about where you are, what's going on at home and what's coming up. If it's a fit, you start that day. If it isn't, I'll tell you, and you'll leave with something useful anyway.
Do I need to be married?
No. Married, engaged or dating all work. What matters is that there's someone you want to provide for.
Does she need to be involved?
No. This is your work. Most men find the tension at home starts to ease before they say a word.
What if I fall behind?
A new lesson unlocks each day, and lessons stay open once they unlock. Pick up where you left off. The calls keep you on track.
What if it doesn't work for me?
Do every lesson and every Playbook page for 21 days. If you don't feel more ready to be the provider she needs, I'll refund all $497. Probably not the smartest business decision, but I'm not in it for the money. I'm in it for your transformation.
Twenty-one days from now, she could be living with the man she asked for.
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